Is the daughter a toddler? The relationships increase with toddlers by doing things with them. Teaching to walk, talk, and potty will increase the relationship. Also, playing with the toddler on the xylaphone and peg box is good. Reading the toddler books will also increase relationship. Tending their needs doesn't always do much for the relationship, especially if the toddler is really tired or in a bad mood. I don't really think it's a problem with traits, but you could list them here and we can take a look.