Me too Ausette!! That's why I refuse to play Sims Social, if it's anything like the other games, I need to beg my friends for stuff when I should be able to do it myself, after all it is my game. I'm glad they said at the end that we could turn it off, otherwise I was going to rethink getting it. Yes the new stuff looks awesome, and I really want all the expansions but I shouldn't be forced to let people I don't know, know what I'm doing every single second I play. If I get into a marathon playing mood, my wall would be overrun with it lol.