That;s weird, I was just playing a married couple and the option didn't come up.
It's the same in my game these days - the husband can still compliment his wife's looks, but the compliment personality option is gone. The wife lost both of the 'compliment' options... Also, the husband is evil and mean (the wife is neither), and he's still the one to compliment.
I sometimes get the delay when going to work, too. But what annoys me most is that all the interactions with cats and dogs are very slow. First, they just stand there idle, and when they finally start the action, the pathing and pointless circling around takes ages. I guess there is a lot of pathing issues... even when I build my rooms more spacious. It's so stupid when picking up your pet dog takes a sim hour.