Sim-directed Romance

[CSquared2]

Recently I was playing a family that started out with the two sims as boyfriends.  At one point as they neared their adults birthdays, they rolled nearly simultaneous wishes to get engaged.  About a week later, they again rolled simultaneous wishes to marry, then, of course, to have a baby.

I have a sim who I try to allow to guide his own life as much as possible.  One thing I've never done, however, is simply sit back and wait to see if they will select a mate, or even roll a basic romantic wish on their own.  He has no especially romantic traits like Hopeless Romantic or Flirty.  I wonder because I remember in Sims 2 you could, if you were careful, have a sim never receive a gender preference and never roll any wants for a partner.  Is the same true of TS3, or is it likely he'll eventually at least throw a Flirt With X or Hug X Amorously?

[VampirePlasma]

In my Dynasty I had Adora roll alot of wishes to Flirt with X, Kiss with X, Date X when she was teen. The when he aged to YA and she did, she saw him at the Park and got a wish to Propose Marriage to X (of course they were already going out there.) She isn't flirty or hopeless romantic.
I guess they choose their own perferences if you don't choose it for them.?

[CSquared2]

Thanks VampirePlasma.  As I was just playing and my sim was chatting it up with one household member, the other two were busy trading bouquets.  I realized that's something they do all the time autonomously that could indicate romantic interest, too.  Glad to know.  I didn't want the poor fellow to be a monk just because I gave him too much free rein.   

[Pam]

I think they do pretty well on their own.  I had a teenager go to the prom and come home with a romantic interest from dancing with her all night.  He was in a rabbit hole, so I wasn't controlling him at all.

[TheChronicR]

I think they do pretty well on their own.  I had a teenager go to the prom and come home with a romantic interest from dancing with her all night.  He was in a rabbit hole, so I wasn't controlling him at all.

That's exactly correct. Many people had their Sims kiss/flirt with Sims that are complete strangers during the prom. Well, perhaps not precisely "stranger", more like an acquittance, halfway to friend or more.

[CSquared2]

Thanks for your experiences.  I have a lot of trouble distinguishing between Adult and YA Sims on my own.  I usually use the Throw Party phone action since it lists their life stage on the guest list.  Usually, I wind up with a YA male Sim finding a female Sim who's much too old for him.  The Sim I have now, though, seems to go in the other direction.  I find a pretty Sim and she turns out to be a teen.     Lesson: I'm not so good at picking spouses myself.  He is a CAS sim, so there will be no prom for him, but I'm sure eventually there will be wishes for someone, especially if I cultivate friendships with the up and coming YAs.  (That sounds a lot better than teenagers, doesn't it?)     Since I usually put off having children until the couple are Adults, it's important to me to have a wife who's the same age or younger than her husband.

[slpc04]

I find that the female sims tend to MORE and very MORE open to having flirt with so and so and wohoo wishes then the male sims in most of my games. I can't seem to find any male that have that openess to want to flirt, wohoo with so and so wishes. I wonder why! I rarely make my male and female sims have flirty traits though. Yet the female sim will want to kiss so and so, flirt with so and so, makes me think my female sims are mostly TOO ...... hmmm...... for my liking LOL. Anyone experience this too? To be honest, it drives me nuts when my female sims are the first to have kiss and woohoo wishes.

[Saltypaws]

Actually in mine, it is about even for each gender.  For instance, I have taken my married sims to the park on a Sunday, they would picnic and make google eyes for one another.  Husband goes to restroom and wife decides to give flowers to some guy she just met, he rejected him and she was not to pleased.  I have had the same thing happen with the male also.  They will just start flirting and giving flowers with about anyone, lol.  I sometimes sit back and watch a single sim choose their own partner.  The park is a great place on the weekend.  Most families are there and doing a little bit of everything.  I don't usually give my sims flirty, unless I have a certain goal I want to accomplish.  It is hilarious to watch these little guys sometimes.

[MoMoll]

I find that the female sims tend to MORE and very MORE open to having flirt with so and so and wohoo wishes then the male sims in most of my games. I can't seem to find any male that have that openess to want to flirt, wohoo with so and so wishes. I wonder why! I rarely make my male and female sims have flirty traits though. Yet the female sim will want to kiss so and so, flirt with so and so, makes me think my female sims are mostly TOO ...... hmmm...... for my liking LOL. Anyone experience this too? To be honest, it drives me nuts when my female sims are the first to have kiss and woohoo wishes.

Do your female sims have the flirty trait? Mine does and whenever she meets someone, she wants to kiss them for the first time, even if she's found out they're married.

[slpc04]

No MoMoll, I never give my female sims flirty traits, ever, cos most of my games the female almost always are very aggressive in love hunting, meaning she will be the first to wish for kiss so and so for the first time. I normally would give her traits like green thumb, natural cook, bookworm, loner and perfectionist. Yet she will roll wishes that drive me nuts. Say for example, I had a game where for  5 weeks she would be a recluse just skilling and writing, going out only for necessaries and the mail. When I merged a guy to live in her household (I felt sorry for her, LOL), she rolled a wish to kiss him for the first time. And they are just aquaintances, LOL. I replayed the same strategy with a male sim this time in another town. The male sim gave me a wish to meet some one new when I merged the same female sim, rofl. Whatsup with the male sims! I really wish the wishes for male and female were more balanced, at least in my games.

[MoMoll]

Well slpc04, maybe deep down she's either flirty or a Hopelmess Romantic.

[ratchie]

I think our Sims manage just fine on their own without us when it comes to romance. My daughter has been playing the big brother game using townie Sims and despite hardly knowing one another Jared Frio and Jamie Jolina are now romantic interests. They only moved in the house three Sim days ago.

Rachel

[CSquared2]

Just for information's sake, since this discussion has been bumped back up, the sim I originally asked about has still not rolled a single wish for romance with anyone.  He has made several friends in that time, male and female, but still no romance wishes.  He lives on epic lifespan, so he's still a young adult, but it's been weeks.  I think I'll continue to give him time and if he gets down to just a few weeks left in his YA time, I'll set him loose, undirected, on a community lot as someone above suggested and see who he aims for.

[Saltypaws]

That might be your best bet CSquared.  Sometimes, we have to just let our sims pick someone.  Actually it is kind of interesting on who they pick themselves.  I have had sims that showed no interest in anyone, but as soon as they were around other people, then they started rolling wants.