Divorce Option

[athena]

Hi My Sim was already separated from his wife for a long time now. He is already living in with his "girlfriend" and they have children together.  The reason why they are still living in is because the option to get married between him and his girlfriend is not there.  The first woman had an "ex-wife" relationship with him indicated in her icon. Does that mean they are divorced? Or is there an action/prompt to do to divorce his wife in Generations so that he can finally marry his girlfriend? Pls help. Thanks! 

[Pam]

There's not an actual "divorce" interaction.  You'd need to use the "break up" interaction with the wife.  It will show up under the Mean interactions after a couple of insults.  Once your Sim is free from his first wife, he should be able to propose to his girlfriend after enough romantic interactions.

[BellaClo]

You might need to "ask to be just friend". I think this option is also under mean, or maybe friendly. This will change the status of the "ex-wife" to "friend". This is some kind of bug/glitch/weird coding where the game still registers "ex" as romantic relationship, and thus forbid any new committed relationship to be possible.

[SimPoseyYum]

I was under the impression that "just friends" was only an option for Romantic Interest, not Boy/Girlfriend, Fiance or Husband/Wife.  I say that because one of my sims wanted to let a Boyfriend down easy (she cared for him but didn't want to marry him).  No matter how many ways I played or re-played it (I re-set at least 5 times, trying to find a good outcome), she never got the "just friends" option.  The only thing she got was "Mean > Break Up" which starts an all-out, finger-pointing, angry-face, accusatory argument, leading to negative feelings on both sides.

The only time I've ever gotten the "just friends" option was with sims who were in the Romantic Interest phase.  It's a sad break-up but not an angry one.

I wish the more involved relationships could have amicable splits, but I'm not sure it's available.

[Pam]

I've seen the Just Friends option on more than a Romantic Interest.  It probably needs a certain relationship level and/or a certain number of interactions.  But you shouldn't need to be Just Friends to remarry.  Sure, there are times when it doesn't work right, but it's more of a random glitch than a well known bug.

[SweetSimmies]

Well the just friend option comes up if you have an ex. You have to have a good relationship with the ex-wife or girlfriend or whatever and it should be under the mean options. At least that is what happened to me.

[simlishlol]

My sim was in a romantic relationship with a girl but married another girl. I had him do the "just be friends" interaction, and the girl got all up in his face, she had the over-emotional trait so she over-reacted. The "just be friends" interaction is in the mean section, but you should be able to do it without fighting first.

[MoMoll]

I've had "just be friends" turn out amicably and other times they were fighting. I'll be using it in my new game because the fiancé's best friend forever is now romatically involved with my sim (his own autonomous interaction at a party). First she has to ask him to leave his wife.

[athena]

Thanks for your replies, I will try the "just friends" interaction and see what happens next. I will report the outcome here. 

[BellaClo]

I just had one of my Sims go through the Master Romancer LTW.
 
When she was just Romantic interest with the other Sim, she could "ask to be just friend" (under the mean interactions) and their relationship reverted to a friendly status at once. The other Sim didn't look very upset.
 
When she was in a steady relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend), she had to "break up" first (under mean too) and the other Sim was very upset, and registered as ex-boy/girlfriend. She had to wait +/-3 days before the "ask to be just friend" option showed up, under the friendly menu this time. During the cool down time (I think the ex has a heartbroken moodlet), any interactions of any type would just lower their relationship. Once the moodlet was gone, her friendly interactions were accepted again, with positive outcome. Once she reached the "Sim X finds Sim Y is behaving friendly" stage, the option was there.
 
Since your Sim has been divorced for more than 3 days, try to have him be nice and friendly to his ex-wife up to the moment he can ask her to be friend again. Hope it will work.

[MoMoll]

Mine were just Romantic interests (not boyfriend) when she asked to just be friends. But, One had the "Hopeless Romantic" trait and he went nuts! The other had "Committment Issues" trait and he just shrugged his shoulders.

[BellaClo]

Yes, it makes sense that their personality influences their reaction. Poor hopeless romantic Sims