Can't move past the flirty romantic interactions

[Alexandria_]

I've been trying to get my sim to date another sim, and have been using romantic interactions, but the relationship bar keeps flicking between "Sim A thinks Sim B is being flirty" back to "Sim A think Sim B is okay".
Because of this, I can't get my sims to start going steady.

Does anyone know how to fix this problem?

[Hosfac]

I experienced this once, although the only way I found to fix it was to romance another sim.  I never did manage to get anywhere with the original sim.

Have you tried to reset the other sim (not the one you're controlling)?

[Metropolis Man]

Alex, my guess is the Sim on the receiving end of the romantic advances might be Unflirty or Shy. Or maybe Commitment Issues. If this is a non-challenge game I would cheat and add the Sim to the household just to sneak a peek at the traits. Then you could just exit without saving and have a good plan of attack.

[Hosfac]

Actually, I've seen this before.  I had a sim in Barnacle Bay who was trying to romance Dude LaMer, and after a romantic interaction the status would go to "Dude thinks X is being Flirty" and before the next interaction (even though several were cued) it would immediately change to "Dude thinks X is Okay."  But he was living with Moe Pesch, so when Moe came home from the hospital she put the moves on him and it worked the way it's supposed to.

I've only ever seen this happen once in my game, but I remember someone else posting about this a good while back.

[TallStar]

I had this happen a lot on my old computer, I could never find out how to fix it.
Try resetsim, restarting your computer, and all of those basic things.

[Seabody]

I agree with Metro - the case is usually centred upon Sims with those traits. If not, sorry, but I can't help you.

[Alexandria_]

It's in my dynasty, so I can't add him into the household, but my sim discovered he's flirty. So it can't be that he's unflirty. It must just be one of those annoying glitches.
I got them to cuddle on the couch and then kiss, which made them romantic interests, but there was still no moving forward after that.

I haven't gone back to my game since the problem occurred, but I'll be having a look soon. I guess if it's not fixed, I'll just have to set my sights on someone else.

[BellaClo]

Have your Sim asked the Target to break up a relationship with another Sim? In this case, I believe there is a cool down period (2-3 days) where the Sim is heartbroken and don't accept loads of romantic interactions.

It might be similar if its spouse/fiance/girl-boyfriend has died recently - mourning time.

Otherwise, it's a bug. Have you tried resetsim?

[Teresa]

There was a bug from playing tag - not sure if they fixed it as I don't let my sims play tag with future partners.  But the tag bug would not allow those sims to advance beyond flirty if they had played tag in the past with each other.

[Hosfac]

There was a bug from playing tag - not sure if they fixed it as I don't let my sims play tag with future partners.  But the tag bug would not allow those sims to advance beyond flirty if they had played tag in the past with each other.

I had never heard of this bug, but that's likely why it happened to me now that I think about it.  Dude has the childish trait, and they were playing tag shortly before I started.

However, he does not have the unflirty or shy traits.  I have romanced unflirty sims before (Erin Kennedy for one), and know that it is, in fact, possible to flirt with them if you progress high enough in their relationship.  It's just harder to get to that point.  Likewise, once you reach a certain level in the relationship, the shy trait has no influence over interactions.

Read closely to what everyone is saying, and you'll see that this is something that is not normal in the mechanics of the game.

[Alexandria_]

Seems like my post didn't get posted before - oops.
I was wrong about the traits. He was friendly, not flirty.
It seemed this time around I was lucky, and a restart of the computer fixed the issue. However, I've had it happen to me before when a restart did nothing for me. It seems that it's just a weird glitch that's sometimes fixable, sometimes not.

[linmayu]

Hahaha, I've been trying to get VJ Alvi a girlfriend and this bug got me.  I was having him play tag with all his potential mates to build the relationship.  Guess that wasn't the best strategy.  xD

[Avery4u]

Sorry, but all I can say is maybe cheat and change your sims trait to flirty or hopeless romantic.

[Kaydda]

ya i remembered when this happened to me. I restarted the game and it worked fine afterword. all i know is it worked for me.

[Jessywoo]

I get this a lot. It sounds ridiculous, but is the sim your sim is trying to flirt with already in a conversation with someone else? I've had it before where romantic interactions don't work because the game hasn't recognised that a sim is no longer in a conversation with another sim that isn't mine, if you see what I mean. It often happens when you interrupt a conversation in order to get the targeted sim in a conversation with yours - the target sim still has the blue relationship pop-up icon occasionally, as if their relationship is still increasing with the sim they were talking to before.

I believe I've also heard the playing tag bug - it would make sense, because almost all the sims that have been affected by this in my games are either childish or teenagers who were friends as children. In both cases, I would suggest resetsim as your first move, as this would cancel all interactions. If this doesn't work could you go to Edit Town and place another version of the sim in the town? Or you could add the targeted sim to the household so that you're in control of both, and perform romantic interactions while the target sim is active?