In some of them, I've noticed that there is usually a good bit of loot to be gained by accepting the opportunity. The haunted house gives you two gems per gravestone (and there's usually at least one very expensive one), and the meteor shower gives you numerous space rocks (some of which can be worth a lot, too). However, I'm at a loss as to what there is to be gained by the flooded house event.
And when help is offered, I usually accept it. It doesn't cost anything, and from what I've seen, the loot is yours to keep. I did refuse the help once for the meteor shower, but the only thing it did for me was leave a bigger mess to clean up lol.