Sorry to hear you are having trouble with your game RockinRobin
...from what I have read over on the EA forum you are not alone.
Seems a lot of people are having trouble with missing 3rd party CC items, even some are reporting EA items missing.
Although EA will address their own item(s) issues (albeit slowly), but not 3rd party CC content (even though they condone it) they do not support it. This is one of the major reasons I run a vanilla game and won't put 3rd party CC into my game. The game is unstable and barely runs with EA's own content.
I did run across this thread on the EA technical board which has some good info about making sure you have removed
all 3rd party CC content, before updating your game. Hope you can resolve all your issues.
http://forum.thesims3.com/jforum/posts/list/140582.page