Moonlight Falls is my favorite town! It has such great genes around. The homeless/npcs have some real gems in there (Hetal for life!) I highly recommend it!
And the binder helps. I have the same issue with getting too excited and then I get distracted and forget and then CHAOS! I also made so many pollination mistakes in my first attempt that I realized I needed a binder to keep everything straight. Though I still keep trying to commit accidental incest, so clearly ours not a perfect system.