@Nindigo thanks for the suggestion, however I've already done all that. I even tried to ask questions here about it on various things, and to say the response I got from some here ("just go and watch the Youtube Videos and don't ask about the game here") was less than helpful would be me being polite about it. Guess what ... I didn't go and watch the Youtube Videos but I also didn't ask any further questions about it here, either.
Sims 4 is basically not my scene, AND I tried to play it "for real" whatever you mean by that, since it first came out. I preordered Sims 4 and everything! I come back to it every now and then to play it some more, but continue running into the same issues with it. I know I'm vastly in the minority in my feelings of it.
It is not my scene just like Civilization V was not my scene but Civilization I-IV were and Civilization VI is, Heroes of Might and Magic III and V are my scene but not the rest of that franchise, Star Trek Enterprise was not for me, but all the other series of that franchise were, the Lord of the Rings books were highly enjoyable for me, but not the movies, the GoT tv series was enjoyable to me, but not those books, but yet I enjoyed Harry Potter books and movies just as much as each other.