Unfortunately it does seem ambiguous and a bit arbitrary. In my "family" there were 3 "children". One was the child of my founder, and the other two were children from the family I had moved in. Most, but not all, of the interactions with ALL the children registered for both sets of parents. The "have 3 friends" was one that did not register for both sets of parents, as a matter of fact it hasn't registered at all which is a known bug. Any parent could "help child with homework", or could read to any child. Right now I have one who has aged up to young adult, and two in high school. One teen has an "A", and it is the child of my founder, but that isn't registering either.
@JoriaSince you "share" the Family aspirations, you're very familiar with them. I always restrict each one to a single heir (but I've not managed to complete a dynasty yet).
Does this the below agree with your experience?
Tier I (BHF/SL)
I.2 Spend $1,000 on kid's stuff [any kid, any YA/Adult]
Tier II (BHF/SL)
II.1 Read to a child for 2 hours [any kid, any YA/Adult reader]
Tier III (SL)
III.1 Help a child with homework [any kid, any YA/Adult helper]
III.2 Have a child earn an "A" in high school [your child]
III.3 Have a child max any skill [you mentioned that the child must be in the child stage; any child in the household?]
Tier IV (SL)
IV.1 Mentor your child 3 times [very clear, lol; I wish the Family aspiration requirements were all written this clearly]
IV.2 Have a child complete an aspiration [your child; this has worked for me before, but didn't yesterday with a YA daughter]
IV.3 Have a child/grandchild reach the top of their career [your child/grandchild; this one's buggy and may complete early, or not]
Gah, typing the requirements all out has helped me to understand why I'm so confused. Actually, I've never completed Successful Lineage, but I really like Big Happy Family.
Returning to the original post, it would be great if there were a list somewhere of which aspiration requirements were bugged, so we could tell right away if we're misunderstanding the requirement of if the requirement is glitched.
I found this thread because I was having trouble with the Successful Lineage aspiration, too.
Sorry for the looooong post.
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