@JustHappy2B: Have you ever considered a career as a writer? You are not only very clear and concise but very, very funny. I rarely find those qualities together.
Carl: grafting going well but need to look in your guide again to find deathflower. Do they work in The Sims 4 because they never worked for me in The Sims 3. I was always glad I had a saved game because with several deathflowers in inventory my sim would still always die. I even tried having the spouse give one of theirs and there was no response, just death.
You need to try some of TwistedMexicans mods. They are great!