I feel like this might have proven my chemistry theory a little bit, unless you manipulated the situation with the men. It seems like you're not directing the story too much at this point in time, so I'm going to guess that this is the way that it actually worked out for the three male sims. Pace probably rejected her more often than not because his relationship with his wife was higher than his relationship with her. I've found in my game that the one time I broke up a couple, my sim's relationship with the other sim was much higher than his relationship with her was. It's very difficult to cause a break up in TS4, especially by comparison to previous games. So that accounts for Pace, and obviously Dominick had the fatal flaw of being a slob (a tremendously irritating trait, let's be honest).
Dominick is attractive though and he makes a good pick. Pace would have been good because of the color and because you'd get the red hair carrying through to the next generation, but the mixture of genetics can also be pretty good.
This update made me laugh so hard that I cried. I had to read it aloud to my girlfriend so that she could share in the laugh.
I love the bits about the tomatoes. That's so much fun, I hope you keep at it. An exemplar with the insane trait would have been so much fun, but you're right about the strength law fitting with her back story so well. Fun times. Very fun times. This is one of my recent favorites. Do you mind if I list it with the link on my little sims site?