Weddings

[Disco]

I would like to begin by saying that Sims 4 is really pretty good. I have played for about 12 hours or so now. Having a great time. I think that all of the comments, mostly on other sites, bagging the game, were made by people that haven't played the game .... yada yada.

So on to the topic of weddings.

My hero, Chad Brick, had been playing the field shamelessly when Bella Goth appeared on the street. She is just magnificent. Chad was immediately smitten and began the long, and I do mean long, quest to seduce her. Somewhere along the way he fell in love Eventually he started to make some ground. (she is good and family oriented). Finally he won her, and Bella kicked Mortimer to the curb and invited Chad to move in.

I won't go into the details of the events that followed. Needless to say the wardrobe was ransacked for it's most appealing items and all skilling ground to a virtual halt. Finally she won, and Chad proposed. A lovely scene

Then I clicked the plan wedding. This is where the disaster began.

The wedding happens immediately after you finish planning it. The purpose of this post is to let you know to be prepared.

You will need a cake, in your inventory (there is an option to convert a regular cake to a wedding cake). Sadly we were not prepared and had no cake. Goodbye gold event. Fortunately the bride gets a lovely white dress and the groom a tux. When the loading screen hit, I was terrified that poor Bella would be married in the next to nothing she was wearing when I began the event.

My second mistake was to choose the Museum as the location. Seemed like a good choice at the time. The problem, one bathroom. There are a number of tasks to fulfil prior to the wedding. One of them is to have your sims drink. I think you see where this is going. I sent poor Bella off to do her business, Chad was trying to go to work ... Cassandra had already left for work while I was busy trying to get them all to eat. Bella was in a queue to use the bathroom. It was a disaster. You can imagine what happened.

Wedding was delayed for an extended time while she washed her hands repeatedly trying to get her hygiene above zero ..... everyone was fatigued .... finally I just had to click "take the vows". By the time I got them home they were too tired for the wedding night woohoo.

So my advice is, plan carefully. Make sure you have a cake. Make sure all your principles are at maximum everything. Have your wedding in a venue that has full bathroom facilities, and more than one of them. Make sure your principles aren't going to work, quit your jobs if necessary. Then click plan wedding.

Oh the drama.

Sims 4 is awesome.

[Pam]

Thank you, Disco, and welcome to our Forum.

I was unprepared for my Sim's wedding, too, but didn't have quite the disaster that you had.  My Sim's wedding dress was a beige color and she wore blue flip flops.  It was at the park and they exchanged vows with no problem, but that's all they were able to do.  They should have just eloped.

[jillz]

So, you can choose to have a Prestige Event and get a medal score for it, or you can untick the box on the planning menu and just have a regular event that you don't get a medal for.

But this is good advice for planning any event. You have to do all your preparations for it before you start it.

[Disco]

Pam, in my post. I feel a bit special now.

So was it a beige dress? or the funny colour that they are calling white? But the flip flops. I couldn't see under the gown. This is quite confusing. My Bella certainly got the wedding dress. What she and Chad were wearing were not even close to what was in their outfit presets. None of them. So how do you think it works then?

[Dellena]

That was quite a funny read!   Thanks so much on the advice for pre-planning.  I think, when I get to that, I'll tour the different facilities and see which would be best for a wedding.  Even more reality.

[Ginj]

Also, (*facepalm*) if you're going for a prestige wedding and you have a mixologist, you'll need a bar and if you have a musician, you'll need a musical instrument.  Yes, the wedding got out of hand; I tried to have them elope on the spot and for some reason, they wouldn't do that. 

[_Annika_]

Can you purchase properties? If I was playing a challenge where I couldn't upgrade from original EA content I'd buy one and upgrade it myself if that were possible. I look forward to creating a nice wedding venue. Otherwise I'd just make one.

[Disco]

You have the option to have your wedding at home Annika. I think this is the best choice. Then you can have everything just the way you like.

[_Annika_]

Good to know. Does that still give you points towards the Gold badge?

[Disco]

Carl? Pam? This is your territory now.

[Cheezey]

I semi-planned the wedding I had my sims have, and I picked the museum as a venue.  Beforehand I only had the groom in the household, so his outfit was fine. Luckily, the formal wear on everyone at the party looked all right.

My sim only had $1500 to start with at the time of the wedding, and the wedding at the museum in Willow Creek was $1000.

I didn't have a cake or an arch or anything, so I had to buy the arch on the spot.  I didn't have any other food, either.

Luckily, there was a bar at the venue, so I could have the groom make drinks and get that part of the achievement. (Note that there is also a piano at the museum, so you don't have to buy one.)

For so little planning, I was amazed I got the party up to silver, which ended with me getting a couple of centerpiece decor pieces in my inventory.  Didn't get the gold-level wedding oven, though.

What got me was that the spouse's name didn't change, nor did they move in after the wedding.  I had to use the "ask to move in" social afterward.

At least when they move in, though, you get the full value of their property if you sell the furniture, which is a nice change from The Sims 3's version where you get a randomly small amount, even if that sim owned a house of his or her own.

[Playalot]

How I wish I'd read this thread before I married my sims! It all happened so fast that it was a national disaster! She got married in scruffy shorts and a tank top, he got married in his athletic gear, all green fog and stinky armpits. He also had a bladder failure as I was to scared to let him 'go' incase the wedding didn't happen, and I thought he'd be ok. 
Then I tried to quit without saving as I'm a control freak and I wanted a nice wedding, and the auto-save kicked in and so that was that.
What a wedding <shrugs>    The emotions just add to the general chaos with both of them hiding from the world together in the same bed on their wedding night. lol
Funny thing is, this is what I love about The Sims, it just never quite happens as you expect it to 

[grrlinthemoon]

I started preparations before reading this discussion. After reading disco's adventure, I modified things, and ended up with a gold medal!

I went to Manage Worlds, and chose the Oakenstead residence in Willow Creek. I changed the lot type to Museum, though I think Park would also work. I added the Wedding Styled Room from the build menu, and a bar. The property already has a piano for the musician. I just had to add one painting and one sculpture for it to meet the requirement for a museum. Because it's in manage worlds, it didn't cost me a thing.

Following disco's advice I baked a cake and placed it in the inventory. Then, I had the bride and groom and guests travel together to Oakenstead. On arrival, Zoe (bride) clicked on the wedding arch and chose plan wedding event (or something like that ) Set the cake on a table, give it a wedding topper, and then click on the arch again and choose "Marry [sim]". 

I hired a caterer, but he didn't cook anything. There was a full kitchen and a grill. I'm not sure what item I needed to get him to make food. Does anyone know?

[Dulcea]

I didn't plan for my wedding at all. I had my wedding in the Oasis Springs park. One thing I noticed is that as soon as you get there you can enter build mode and add all the things that you need. I had hired a caterer, entertainer, and a mixologist so there was a little pop up notification that told me I needed counters, fridge, oven, piano, and bar ect. for the wedding. I went into build mode and added all these things to the lot. One thing to note is that entering build mode from a community lot allows you to buy things with infinite funds. Since you are editing a community lot it doesn't actually take money out of your household funds. By adding everything I needed, I easily got a gold medal for my wedding.

Another point about the wedding cake. My caterer made a cake first thing using the oven and fridge I placed on the lot.

I still haven't checked back at the park to see if the items I added during the wedding stayed there.

[Echo]

Dulcea, you are absolutely right.  Looks like most of my previous post was either partly or fully wrong.  I didn't realize that having it in the park meant not spending family ac Thanks for setting the record straight!

Given that the cost is the same to hold the party at home or in the park, it makes more sense to do it in the park where the cost of items (arch, bar, piano, refrigerator, oven and countertop) is essentially nil.  The only reason I can see now to hold it at home is if you already had all those items AND active lot sims to staff them instead of relying on hired help.  I must have tried 5 or six times to get gold at home and just couldn't get past the task of having guests watch the wedding... they were always too busy inside the house to come outside and watch!  When I tried it again at the park I was able to get gold without too much trouble.  I believe Mike and Katrina were as relieved as I was to get out of that darn cycle.

Maybe I'm micromanaging the whole operation too much.

Anyway, here are the goals for getting gold:
Main Goal: Get Married!
Chat with guests for 2 hours
Have 3 drinks
Eat 4 servings of food
Have guests watch the ceremony
Have the betrothed kiss
Take the first slice


I found it much easier to get the drinks/food out of the way after I'd had Katrina move in with Mike prior to the ceremony.  That way I could use both of them and cover 2/3 of the drink goal and 2/4 food of the food goal.

Pick the right day!  Sunday was the only day that both Mike and Katrina had off from work.  I wonder if perhaps all jobs get Sunday off?  I made sure they were both about as maxed in their needs as possible before going to bed on Saturday night.

Plan The Wedding as early in the day as possible, so you have plenty of time in case guests are inexplicably slow.  I also seemed to have a larger selection of guests at 7:45AM (11) than I did at 10:30AM (2).

The caterer made the cake (and added the wedding topping!), and then stopped until I give him another couple of countertops, whereupon he whipped up several tasty dishes in no time flat.

Getting the mixologist to mix drinks was a little tricky -- sometimes she'd act like a guest and all I'd get were greeting options.

Make sure there's adequate room around the arch for guests to stand or sit.

It is always better (goal-wise) to get in a conversation with a guest before ordering a drink or grabbing a plate of food because it gives you an option to order/grab for your entire group.

When the goals for drinks, conversation and food are satisfied, the Have the Betrothed Kiss goal appears.  If at least a couple of your guests are reasonably unoccupied (and not partying inside your house or off using the park toilets) then you can now click on the arch to get your sims married.  The ceremony is very sweet, including a first kiss popup (odd, considering Katrina had never been stingy with her kisses before that) that will satisfy both the kissing goal and the main goal.  After that, a final goal appears -- Take the First Slice.  Have one of the newlyweds go get the first slice from the wedding cake and they'll share it with their new hubby

Item rewards:
Pro-quality knife block set (clutter)
The Food Annihilator (microwave)
The Caffeininator (coffee pot)
Wedding pillar w/ floral basket (silver or better)
In full bloom centerpiece (silver or better)
VIP bucket (gold)