The attraction system

[MoMoll]

I've noticed 3 things with the attraction system.

1. "I like a person who learns a new skill" (or something to that effect). This is a friendly and not necessarily "romantic" statement. My sim accepted a few dates like this (you have to remember who made the statement) and they just chatted and became friends.

2. "We have so much in common, I'd LOVE to get to know you better". I put the emphasis on LOVE. These are people wanting more than just friendship. Tried it out and yes, after chatting a bit, here came the "pick up line", etc.

3. "I don't care what others say, I think your HOT". No mistaking that message. The problem is that the messages come so fast, you have to remember, who sent them and then decide who you meet up with.

This is only from my playing around; but, I suspect there is a pattern to it.

[Ricalynn]

I've often gotten the "new skill/craft" one from Sims that my characters barely know.  This is usually when another one of my Sims is in some way raising a skill level or when they have more than a few skill points over multiple skills.

I've gotten the "so much in common" only a couple of times and it required knowing 3 or more of the other person's traits and the ones who said it had at least two traits that were shared with my Sim. 

I've never gotten the HOT one but I think I'll need to try it out.

[cndneh]

How about the gifts you get in the mail from your admirers, I usually get pictures and plants (some I've cashed in for over 1000 Simoleons)  But my latest (and I must say best gift) was the "Tree of Prosperity" 

I wonder if the amount spent on the gift lets you know how much they like/love you?

[thelittlepakeha]

Played only for a short time but got 2 Sims reacting that way to my Sim and also got a moodlet without time limit being around "hot Sim" or something like that. Find it like it is very random and would love to see what mechanism is behind it. Will try to see in s3pe when I find some time

Yeah my witch Isabella gets that moodlet around... Marc? in Twinbrook. He asked her on a date and she said yes and they went to the horse track and just stood outside in the rain flirting, haha. He's got commitment issues which is actually a plus because she has other priorities at the moment, but it'll be good for her roommate Ruby with the Heartbreaker LTW. Have been playing on online dating for Ruby too, though so far it just seems to introduce you to people so you can ring them or whatever (I haven't had time to play much so I haven't actually checked if you can ask them on a date straight away or if you need to get to know them first?) I was tempted to lie in her profile but instead I just removed brooding and commitment issues to be tactful. There were plenty of NPCs on there with things like Loser listed though.

[GenTheHen]

I've noticed 3 things with the attraction system.

"We have so much in common, I'd LOVE to get to know you better". I put the emphasis on LOVE. These are people wanting more than just friendship. Tried it out and yes, after chatting a bit, here came the "pick up line", etc.

"I don't care what others say, I think your HOT". No mistaking that message. The problem is that the messages come so fast, you have to remember, who sent them and then decide who you meet up with.

I was getting these after the latest patch and before I installed seasons.
so I am guessing the attraction system came with the patch then?

[jestina]

Yes, that garbage feature came with the patch. It seems to be not as awful with the expansion but I still wish it would just go somewhere and die.

[MoMoll]

The only thing with the game itself, is the "Love letters". You don't have to answer annoying phone calls (which still happen). Some are quite cute. My sim received one from Matthew Hamming after meeting him that said something to the effect of "I want us to be together forever, tell me you feel the same".

[Janna]

My sims were at the festival and as wife is getting her face painted he goes to skate.  He is twirling around with a young sim girl and in his box pops up a heart with a magnet and stating something about finding a sim hot.  What irritated me in a way is that he and his wife have a faithful moodlet.    I had him go get his face painted, and join his wife for a meal, they were both hungry anyhow. 

Festival closes so they go home and he gets the mail.  Had the option to write a love letter, for all the people he had met that day but not his wife. 

[Susinok]

My single Sim in Lucky Palms tried the online dating function. It is pretty funny. She got a message from someone she already knew which said something like, "Busted! Yeah I use this site, too."

It is nice that you can check out traits of some NPC Sims. Many of them, you just don't want to go there...

I will have to silence my phone, though. I do think the random calls for my family Sims is annoying. Never thought of silencing the phone.

[Hyacintha]

I had my single sims browse the dating sites. I loled at the "more to love" description. I saw a few married sims. Actually I would see both the husband and wife on there. Beau and Victoria Andrews. Simis and Jocasta.

Anyway, my sim got a date request from Simis Bachelor, so I had her accept for the heck of it. A few things I noticed.

One, the date was at the museum, which was late at night, and there wasn't any other sims there.

Two, when she got there, I thought he didn't show up since he wasn't in front of the building. But he did show up, and he was right in the back of the museum in a very discrete place. LOL

I guess someone is trying to keep things on the low. 

[MoMoll]

My mistake the first time using "online dating" was to respond to those with similar traits. NIGHTMARE! The phone never stopped ringing, her mailbox was full of love letters and so she removed her profile from the site! Big mistake! Won't make the same mistake twice.

[Gogowars329]

My sim thinks that their imaginary friend is attractive company. It isn't even real yet.

[LivvieLove]

I think if the Sims have certain traits like insane, inappropriate, flirty or hopeless romantic they should be more likely to call you for a date (despite being married) but sims with traits like family oriented, good, proper, nurturing etc and are married should not even attempt to romantically call someone.

Oh you have no idea how much I wish this could be true! My Sim is a Hopeless Romantic but she's happily engaged to a guy she's attracted too but that doesn't stop Parker Langerak from sending her love notes, calling her and asking her on dates when she knows nothing about him! I always laughed because the love notes are received in the mail which her fiance always gets. I'm surprised Sims hasn't implemented the jealousy act for that... like my sim's fiance getting a wish to "beat Parker up" or something. The thought made me giggle a bit.

[MarianT]

I'm enjoying the online dating/attraction system more than I thought I would. Yes, my sims get love-letters and presents from practically everyone they come into contact with -- including married people -- but you can ignore the pop-ups, and unlike memories, you don't have to do anything about them. Since I'm playing a decadynasty, it gives me a way to discover who's a townie as opposed to a NPC. It also helps me discover their traits.

My sims are taking romance a little more slowly these days instead of trying to nail down an engagement, or at least the option to go steady, the first time they come into contact with an eligible townie. They get and send love-letters; they actually get asked out on dates -- something I haven't seen since Sims 2.

If you're tired of the phone calls, keep in mind that you don't have to answer the phone. You'll find out automatically if it's an opportunity, a phone call from a friend, or someone asking you out. My sims never answer their phone.

[simone23]

I like it in that it seems to give my Sims a bit more autonomy.  I have a third-generation coming up and the mates they're choosing aren't the ones I'd choose for them, but that's actually kind of cool.

What I really wish is that when a two sims are Romantic Interests as teens and one of them ages up, that they'd drop the romantic part of the relationship automatically.  My teen wasn't even going steady with her YA boyfriend, but when she moved on to a more age-appropriate boyfriend she got a naughty reputation for her troubles.

The new boyfriend is Wei Pei though, so it's totally worth it