I'm going to update early since I will be running around like a mad lady, until the new year, so for now Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!
Chapter 6 Motherhood and GrandmasWhen the pain from the first contraction subsided I called Spencer, and told him to get his butt home and pick me up because this baby was coming whether we liked it or not. Looking back on that phone call I could have been much nicer to my poor husband but the excitement and nervousness of becoming a mother had my nerves in one ginormous ball! All in all it was a long labor (16 hours), but easy enough. By the end of it though I had a beautiful baby boy!
Ethen Thaddius Ford was born on March 11 at 11:11 pm He weighed 6lbs 11 oz and was 20in long!
I have a perfect baby! When Dr.Singh laid Ethen in Spencer’s arms, I saw a tear trickle down his face, I knew in that moment I loved my husband more now than I ever had because I saw how much he loved our son. I was so excited about this new chapter of our life! We spent the night in the hospital, and by noon the next day we were on our way home. The drive home is usually a short one, which I would have been thankful for because I was extremely nervous about having Ethen in a car. I tried to be relaxed as we pulled away from the hospital, but when Spencer took a left turn instead of a right, I was in full panic mode.
“Spencer, we are not going joy riding with our newborn! Go home!” I told him sternly
“Save the stern voice for when Ethen’s older” he smiled at me “Relax”
“Relax, are you kidding me! Where are we going?” I asked
“shhhh” he said
How am I supposed to respond to shhhh? I sat back and crossed my arms. Spencer made another right turn and pulled up in front of a beautiful large grey house.
“Where are we?” I was annoyed with my husband, did he not realize that I was exhausted and just wanted to go home?
“Home” he replied
“No, honey, home is on the other side of town.” I said as if I were speaking to a three year old.
“No, sweetie, this is our new home.” He replied in the same tone I had used.
“what?” I whispered
“Welcome home” He said as he smiled
“You’re serious?” I questioned
“Yes, Ria, all those extra hours away from home, they were spent here, supervising the building.” He told me
“You are serious.” I choked out
“Yes” he laughed
“How are we going to pay for this?” I asked suddenly concerned
“Well see that’s the other thing, the bank approved me for a loan, now that I’m making more money.”
“Making more money?” I questioned
“Yep, I got another promotion!” He told me, he was so excited.
He leaned over, and kissed me.
“Ria, our life is perfect right now, this is exactly the way it should be.”
“Let’s go inside” I told him
He was right our life is perfect, I have an amazing husband and a beautiful new son. This is everything I ever dreamed my life would be!
As I walked in the front door I was greeted by my mother and brother, and my mother’s camera
Thanks Mom,
I’m so in love with my little guy, I spend every moment I can with him! Luckily Grandma J is camera happy so we already we have a million photos of Ethen.
We love the rocking chair! It was actually a gift from my Mom, it was the one she used when I was a baby!
I’m so in love with my little guy I can’t say it enough!
Spencer’s pretty taken with him too!
We love having this little guy around and I guess mom loves it just as much as we do because I barely get to hold my own son! Here’s a couple of photos I got of mom and Ethen!
As much as mom loved living here and being with Ethen, I could tell she still missed Riverview.
Yesterday, after Ethen went down for his afternoon nap, Mom and I were sitting at the table, I was talking about Ethen’s recent doctor’s appointment, when my phone rang.
“Hang on a second Mom.” She nodded; I picked up my phone,
“Hello” I greeted
“Hi, Ria” came my mother-in-law Patricia’s sweet reply
“How do you and James like Shang Simla? I asked. A few months back my in-laws, James and Patricia, sold their home and moved to Shang Simla, they said they wanted a change of scenery,and a new culture. I said that they should have just moved to Bridgeport.
“We hate it Ria.” She answered
That was not the response I was expecting.
“Oh what’s the matter?”
“Everything is so different, no one seems to understand a word that I say, and I’m dying to meet my new grandson, he is so adorable in those pictures that you sent us.” She said with a hint of sadness in her voice
“Patricia, I’m so sorry, I wish there was something Spencer and I could do.
"We would come there but Ethen is just to little to travel right now” I told her
I felt for Patricia, I couldn’t stand to be so far away from my family.
“it’s okay Ria, is Spencer around?” she said
“No, he’s at work right now, I’ll have him give you a call later though.” I told her
“You let him do that with a new baby?” she sounded shocked
I laughed
“Well yeah, I mean he loves his job, and Ethen is a dream baby, so easy to take care of and if I need help I have my mom here.”
“Okay, well I’m still going to talk to that son of mine.” She stated
“Alright don’t be too hard on him.” I chuckled
“Ria, thanks for talking to me for a while but I have to go run some errands, while James is down exploring those silly tombs, give Ethen kisses from his Grammy.”
“Ok Patricia, I will right now.” I assured her
As I hung up the phone I felt a pang of sorrow. I knew I didn’t want my child growing up without knowing his other Grandma, and the only Grandpa he would ever know. I knew I had to do something.
