Hey Pam...yup it was pretty bad in the sims 2.
It was fine when the kiddies were babies, mom and dad were pretty attentive. Then as the kiddies aged, they lost more and more interest. The toddlers were pretty much on their own as neither parent wanted to take care of them. They would play guitar, pinball, anything but take care of their kids. I ended up taking their toys away til kids got to youth stage.
The sims 3 is definitely "kid friendly."
I remember kids in sims 1 also PJ. I think I remember I killed Cassandra once cause she was driving me crazy.