playalot: thanks for the link, but that's the exact mod i tried. it technically worked: it DID slow down time, but it slows down all actions uniformly, so eating still takes 45 minutes, it's just that the animation is spread out over a full minute rather than 15 seconds.
curioussim: thanks for the advice. i have managed to take advantage of that a few times, but the bigger issue is on my days off, when i need/ want to develop hobbies or social lives. by the time i get up at 6:00am, eat, shower, pee, and clean up a little, it's 2:00pm. considering it takes my gardener sim 6+ hrs to "tend garden", that's pretty much her whole day. i understand the gardening takes a while, but the rest of that stuff should (imo) take no more than 2 hrs, not 8.
i don't recall having these problems in sims 3. in fact, in University, i recall waking up 30min before an exam, taking half a shower, eating an apple, and still making it on time.
anyway, thanks for your responses!