I'd like to have the answer to that also. I am used to playing with longer life spans and so have longer to spend on the kids aging up. I end up micromanaging to be able to get photos at the stages and then wondering how I am going to get it into a story and make it interesting enough to read, not become boring (which I think my O'Shea story has become).
You have picked a challenging family, I have always wanted to get a personality elixir to toss on VJ to change him, he seems to have gotten some lousy rolls on the traits.
I will be waiting to see what you do with this family. Should be a handful to take care of.